So, you think you know all about sex, do you? You say, “Yeah! I been doing it for years so I know all about it!”

The truth is, most of us don’t know everything about sex. We don’t know why God gave it to us and, really, what it’s for. Some may even have been raised to think it was a “necessary evil” or “something you have to do to keep peace in the home.” And others may consider sex to be the biggest thing in their lives.

Why did God give us sex? The truth is, sex is a GIFT given directly to us by God. True, it is for making babies, but it is also for fun! The problem is, many people today don’t realize that God also gave us a “rule-book” with this great gift. God says sex is to happen between one woman and one man, for life. Polygamy (more than one marriage partner) was never God’s idea. As long as we follow God’s rule-book, we will never have to worry about STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) or all the pain and sorrow that come with cheating on our spouse.

In my counseling ministry today, I’ve noticed that there are three (3) main areas where big problems can arise in a marriage. They are: money, in-laws, and sex. Sex problems can happen in many different areas. For example, sixty percent (60%) of all women who come to see me have been sexually abused as children; usually by a family member, neighbor, or close friend. Is it any wonder then that so many ladies suffer from some kind of sexual dysfunction in their lives? The animals in our society who would abuse a little girl are usually so selfish that they seldom stop to consider the long-term damage that will be done by their actions. Girls who have been abused usually either grow up to become very promiscuous (multiple sex partners) or frigid (unable to respond sexually).

Boys in America are often raised under the “macho” ethic that says girls are only for sex and they should have as many sexual partners as they can find. Of course, many of these same boys insist on having a virgin for a life partner when the time comes. I’m surprised they can find a virgin.

Let’s talk about that for a moment. Why is virginity important? The truth is, most of us don’t understand virginity at all and that’s why it isn’t held in very high esteem these days. The fact is, in every woman’s body, God has placed a very special organ called, “the hymen.” A lot of doctors today don’t even understand the significance of this special blood-filled member of the female anatomy. You must go back to Adam, Eve, and Abraham to understand this organ. God always sealed every covenant He made with man with blood. This was true when God made the very first blood sacrifice by killing animals in the Garden of Eden and covering the nakedness of Adam and Eve after the fall. He also instructed Abraham to shed the blood of all the males through circumcision to seal the covenant that He made with him. This principle of blood-covering goes all the way down to Jesus shedding his blood on the cross to  seal the New Covenant that God made with man.

We must always remember that a marriage is also a covenant. It is a covenant between a man and a woman and it is intended for life. To seal this covenant, there must be the shedding of blood and that takes us back to the hymen. God intended that a man and a woman be virgins when they marry so that, on their wedding night, when the very first sexual intercourse was to take place, the hymen would break and both partners would be bathed in blood, thus sealing the promise of their marriage for all time! It’s kind of beautiful, isn’t it? Do you understand now the importance of virginity?

Now, don’t freak out. I know lots of people today are far from virgins when they marry. Aren’t you glad for forgiveness and restoration? In fact, I believe if you are sincere in your repentance, God can spiritually return your lost virginity to you.

Teens, if you’re reading this right now may I challenge you to remain a virgin. Listen girls, boys know how to put pressure on you by telling you, “if you love me you will.” but, girls, you simply need to reply, “if you love me, you won’t ask!” That’s right, it is possible to wait; it may be difficult but it is possible!

Parents, don’t be afraid to teach your kids about abstinence. In America today, those of us who believe in waiting are scoffed at as religious fanatics and kooks but, the proof is in the pudding. Kids, if you wait, you won’t have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy. If you wait, you won’t have to worry about catching some kind of disease.

Now, let me talk to you about that subject for a moment. It’s not like it was when I was in high school. Back then you could have sex with just about anyone and if you caught something, it could usually be cured with penicillin but things have changed. Today, everyone knows about AIDS but what about some other STDs that are running rampant in the US today? Has anyone talked to you about Herpes II? Herpes I is those little fever blisters you get on your lips sometimes but Herpes II is a sexually transmitted disease that is totally without cure today and fifteen percent (15%) of the population of America is infected with it! How many people is that? That’s about thirty (30) million. And I have some hard news for you; about fifteen percent (15%) of Carlsbad is infected with it. And, we haven’t even talked about Hepatitis C and some others that are out there. Today, having sex with someone you’re not married to is kind of like playing Russian roulette! And, please remember, some of these diseases have incubation periods. In other words, a person can be infected and be a carrier and not even know it because he or she may not be exhibiting any symptoms whatsoever!

I love all of you and that’s why I’m sharing these things with you. Several years ago, a woman from another city approached me and told me the sad story of being infected with not one, but two incurable sexually transmitted diseases. Her life was a living hell and before she left she said, “you tell everyone you meet that there is no sex in the world that is so good that it is worth going through what I’m going through!”

Parents, get informed about sex. Read God’s rule book. Teens, talk to your parents. And, please, whatever you do, don’t buy into the theology that’s going around today that says, “well, kids are going to do it anyway, they might as well know how to get hold of condoms.” Condoms are only eighty-three percent (83%) effective in preventing pregnancy; so does that sound like “safe” to you? I love you! 

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